This is one of the more powerful lessons I’ve learnt over time when it comes to the behaviour of others and how we perceive, react or respond to it.
If someone has done something you disagree with, don’t understand, makes you confused or left you questioning their behaviour or motivation, then take a pause and breathe through it.
You might have intrusive thoughts such as, what are the possible reasons!? What are they thinking doing that?!
The longer we dwell on it the more we worry. Learning to let it go is a powerful skill and understand that if it’s behaviour around you, without direct communication not a lot will be resolved. And from experience, it’s not easy to identify the reason why someone did something or acted in a certain way.
Take a breath, give it some time and let it sit.
It’s probably not personal. There’s likely another reason someone acted in a surprising way.
And once it’s discussed, it often becomes clear there were reasons or circumstances we weren’t aware were a factor.
It’s likely not personal.
Holding this mindset is a great method of relieving ourselves of worry and personal blame when it’s unwarranted. Of course, if it is us! then take responsibility.
Give people some time and space and the reasons may become clear.
Be kind to yourself and let it go. It’s likely nothing to do with us or with communication, it will become clear.