Keep your life low-key and share only what you want people to have access to, it protects your peace.
People will judge you, make assumptions about your life. Let them. Let them know what you want them to, the rest is just assumptions and guesses.
You hold the power in protecting your peace and nobody really know’s what’s going on in your life unless you choose to share it. It’s a superpower of silence.
Just get on with your life and keep your privacy. Privacy is your power and safe place.
Living a low-key life, protects your peace 💛✨🪽
Albany is a beautiful town. I had such a surreal experience recently there, that ended up with me joining a stranger’s FaceTime (in a way).
It was dusk and I had left it too late to go photograph any of golden hour. But I went out anyway to Sharp Point Lookout. It looks out across the vast Indian Ocean that connects Australia and Antarctica. If you look west, you can see the Albany Wind Farm turning away in the strong winds.
It was a beautifully peaceful night. Calm with the rolling swells pushing up against the coastal rocks and the usual amount of wind. But this night it was pretty calm up top of the cliffs.
When I arrived at Sharp Point, I was planning to sit and enjoy the view for half an hour and wind down. But there was another car in the car park (it was already pretty dark) and I wondered if I’d bump into the owners as I got out.
Sure enough, as I rounded the corner to the lookout, they were there seated on the platform railing, looking out over the ocean. I could hear some conversation going on, they were very chatty. It was such a serene location, my first thought was for some reason – they were discussing something serious and I should just leave.
Then while I took a few quick photos from nearby, I realised they were speaking German, the conversation was pretty jovial and there was a third voice. They were FaceTiming someone, I’m guessing back in Germany.
Okay, chill then and I took more photos as we exchanged glances. They laughed away with their mate on the other side of the world.
It’s a very common situation. People often sit on the beach or cliff and call family or mates and share the view with them. But for some reason, this one was quite dreamy, mainly due to the scenery and lighting I think.
What seemed like a couple, we’re calling a friend, tens of thousands of kilometres away through that tiny iPhone and I could hear the conversation going as they showed off the stunning sunset.
It was like they were straining for signal. Which of course they weren’t, we had full bars! And it was also like they were facing their friend, so very far away by sitting as close as they could on the edge of the world. Like they’d found the best location where they had peace and quiet and the best chance of hearing their friend.
Logically, they actually had their backs to them direction-wise, RUDE lol and signal wasn’t a factor.
I don’t understand German, so didn’t get the words but it was such a dreamy thing to hear this voice arriving from Germany to Sharp Point through the massive expanse of sky and ocean that was all around us.
Sitting in such a huge open space, you really feel that distance of the person on the other line. Their voice travelling in real time into space and down across 14,500 kms to that tiny 1m of space so their friends could hear it and send back the view of the expanse of the Indian Ocean.
The swells rolled in, the turbines slowly spun away and the wind blustered through our lookout every now and then. I snapped away, until I captured what I wanted.
And off I went.
Hallo and Verabschiedung friend across the ocean. We shared a serene space for a brief moment in the timeline of the world ✨
Have you ever noticed those people who walk into a room and just bring an aura of peace? The energy of the room shifts, they bring a calm that’s hard to put into words. We might call it a calming aura and for me, it’s a state I aspire to.
When these people walk by or enter a room, you can see others visually relax, drop their shoulders and a peace filters in. Around these kind of people, you might feel reassured that everything will be okay and whatever you were worrying about will resolve and turn out for the best. You might even feel that peace when they’re not close by and you think of them.
Your calm creates safety and you will radiate peace.
When you bring calm, you’re not a distraction to others. You create focus, motivation and energy for people around you to push forward. You may even feel more comfortable and more like yourself when they are around. It’s a pleasure to be around them and they will help you to be your best.
Calm in your heart (mind) will send the same energy out across the room and space.
We wouldn’t be human if we were able to be in this state all of the time. Even on the difficult days when your energy is disrupted or things don’t go your way – choose calm over anger.
A few tips to help create your own calm and peace:
Rethink your work or rest space at home or work. Give yourself a corner for calm
Moving your body believe it or not, will get rid of that erratic energy and bring calm to your bodily rhythm and mind
Get creative. Pick up a peaceful hobby like painting or music
Music. Make yourself a playlist or five that reflect where your mood is at and encourages it to come down down down. I sometimes used the 8hr thunderstorm recording, it’s very peaceful
Head outside and get some vitamin D in the sunshine
Get a good nights sleep
Try one of the many relaxation apps
Put the devices away, especially before bed. Try reading a book
Guppadea? Make yourself a nice hot cuppa and chill in your calm space
Scrapbook. I’ve been looking back through my sketchbook art recently and it’s been very calming. You could make your own book or draw
Giving of yourself. Working for others is good for the soul. Donate your time to helping a charity, volunteer organisation
Your daily switch off mechanism. Develop your own for after work. For me it’s swimming. I swim 30 minutes each day after work and I love it. Its calming, tiring, a switch off, a cool down an indicator that it’s my other time now
When you feel calm, you’ll create peace within yourself and your surrounds and it’s a great thing for a healthy mind, body and spirit.
Learning to let go is such a useful skill and yet it’s often not easy. I think it’s one aspect of life that is a continual challenge met over and over.
With objects I have this internal struggle of keeping waste, leftovers or extras unused portions for later use. The reality is, they largely don’t get used and if so, 2 or more years later they’re still there and they sit around creating background stress.
Items left unused and sitting around your living environment I think produce a low level kind of energy loss. If they’re visible, they’re a constant reminder of their existence and current state of not being used.
If they’re not visible, at some point the amount of unused things gathered in our lives causes us to do a massive clear out, the spring clean! It’s because in some way, we’ve gathered things that we know are truly not needed.
The funny paradox is, as you let go of more and more, momentum builds and the process gets easier and easier until the massive things in your life that you thought you’d never release into the river of the universe, suddenly become miniscule. And off they go.
Tonight as I stood with people who I’ve a long history and been through some tough times with, I felt a strong sense of peace.
Letting go emotionally of past events, wrongdoing or grudges or pain, is one of the most freeing things. I wish I was better at it.
Tonight, I felt it. Freedom. Forgiveness and release of the past. I was just fully present. We stood together as we are now, in the moment with all past released. It was very freeing.
Letting go is such a core skill in life. When I’m able to do it quickly and speedily, I feel growth. It’s definitely something to study and practice more.
Here are some tips I’ve found useful in letting go:
Assess if the object or thing is being used. If it hasn’t been used for a year, out it goes
How life goes and how we want it to go drives feelings of lacking. Release the grip on the how, and see how easier life flows
Revisit the idea that plans and life change. Do the things you need to live and see how it turns out
Reconfirm that we change and grow. And so the old self may be no more, and you may have different needs now
Meeting the expectations of others is a massive one to let go. Reconfirm that not everyone will understand, get or like you. Let that one sail. You don’t need anyone’s approval
When I get there, I’ll be?! The destination may be a long way off, enjoy the way there and all of the small details and joy along the way.
Hope these are useful for you. Letting go for me is one of those daily things to practice.
Are you good at letting go? What tips do you have?
