There are often times when we second guess our decisions and it can be so confusing. You might be in two minds about whether you’re making the right call.
It’s these times, we often wonder what the best way is to balance out all of the factors affecting the decision and give ourselves the best guidance and reassurance.
There’s all sorts of decision making frameworks and tools you can try and writing or talking it out helps. I find there’s two other things that I consistently use to confirm decisions and ensure I’m making the best call at the time.
You might also rely on a spiritual guide, the universe, destiny, consult in family or friends or something else. For me, I will try and consult others and I also go back to my values and my why.
Your personal values are your foundation to guide you when you’re confused or unsure. That’s why it’s so beneficial to have them crystal clear within yourself.
That is to say, you know what they are and where your lines are (that you won’t cross).
For example, you may choose to not be friends with anyone who supports abortion. That’s a clear one, others are often greyer. Go back to your personal values and run the decision through your set and see if it aligns.
Then, and I think this is equally important as your values, go back to your why. Why are you making the choice you are? There will be a core reason and likely some other supporting ones.
Your core why, will provide you clarity when the noisy doubts crowd your mind. Amongst all of the self-questioning:
Is this right?
Will I regret this?
What if I did that instead?
I’m afraid of this choice.
you can return to your core why and the doubts will quieten. Why am I choosing this path? Because of this one original reason, or multiple reasons. It’s easy to forget the core reason we worried about, analysed, planned for and eventually took action over.
Go back to your why. Your values are your foundation and guiding light, your why confirms your motivation and clears away the doubts.